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I have lived with my boyfriend for akmost 4 years and we just moved from Ohio to Virginia about 11 months ago. Before the move everything was not great really. We have hardly been one of those couples who are lovey dovey. We fight a lot about almost everything. I am 22 and he is 26 so it may be the age difference. Also I come from a bigger family but they are not that well off. I have to pay for all of my schooling and they can’t offer any assistance. His family is rather small and they consist of his mom who lives in Texas, and his aunt and uncle and 2 cousins who live in Ohio. His family are pretty well off. They were able to help us in our apartments because his credit is not too good and plus we don’t generate enough of an income that looks good on paper when filling out the stuff for the apartments. He has on a few occasions during the heat of the battle told me that my family are losers because they can’t offer any money to us if we need it, or offer any type of assistance any other way. It hurts me but it is true, they can’t offer any assistance but I still love them, but he does not understand why I defend them so much when he says stuff like that.
He also makes more money than me but it has not always been like that. For about a year or so we were making the same amount. For about 2 or 3 years he has made anywhere from 3-7 dollars more than me. He often tells me (also during the heat of the battle) that he is the bread winner and that I should not cause arguments and I should pick my battles. Things that I have argued about that have led to the verbally abusive explosions have been things about me not wanting to have anal sex, me getting pissed off if we go out to a bar or resturant and he calls the bartender/waitress honey, sweetie, or baby (and it is not in a way that someone does it who just is that way, it is sort of flirty), if I dont want to have sex, about him smoking pot, about my friends (I have none because he finds fault in all of them. He wants me to have friends with money and connections. He has talked about them so bad that I feel like I am choosing between him or them if I defend them or want to hang with them), also about my past job that I had. I did not have many responsibilities and he did manual labor and he felt like he should be the one who deserves the job like I had. I am a nursing student and the schedule can be very demanding. He has said it is a low life job and he is right but it just sucks to hear him say it like I am a loser.
So I recently went out and did research on schools back in Ohio. I found an LPN school because all RN schools have a 2 years wait. There were no schools in VA for LPN (if I wanted to pay 20grand at some technical school). So I told him that I was going back for my edducation for 21 months so that he could no longer harass me about my job. He wants me to get another job that is more challanging even if I make less. He told me he would respect me if I was a manager at McDonalds vs. my recent job of a bank teller. So everything was good for like 2 months and he was cool with me going but them like a week before I was supposed to go he started crying and freaking out. So I said I would stay. But them we had gotten into a few other fights and he has called me a bi*ch, cun*, loser, fatass, he even told me he made out with “a big ti**y bi*ch from alabama and wished he would have fuc*ed the **** out of her”. This was in response to me not wanting to do anal sex after I told him that I would. I told him I would because I was trying to work it out with us but he was making me feel like anal sex was the only way for him to be happy. He said that he has had 3 other girlfriends who have done that for him and I don’t love him because I don’t give all of me to him. But he does not turn me on I have really no desire. He does not tellme I am beautiful or anything and he is really demanding and does not make it a intimate experience. I keep telling myself that maybe I should just give in but I cant when the time comes down to it. When I went to stay with my friend after the big fight when he told me about kissing another person at the airport he was demanding that I leave saying he does not want me. When I left he starting calling and texting me every 15 minutes saying how sorry he was and how much he knows he will never find antoher like me. So like an idiot I went back, and then his story cahnged from him making out with the lady to her kissing him out of no where. He also told me he was smoking crystal a few years ago when we first moved in together when he went back down to Texas to pick up our furniture. He made the trip back from TX to OH in 2 days… That was during the heat of the battle and when I came back he said he was lying. He also said he made out with someone there too and then cahnged the story. I want to leave but I feel like there is good in him… HELP

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